I was about 14 when I began to really follow my curiosity toward learning more about human consciousness. I attracted a bunch of friends that were similarly intrigued by life, we burnt incense, had crazy late night conversations and fantasised about anything and everything being possible. But if I’m honest we never really believed the kinds of lives we dreamt up actually were possible, we were too much a product of our upbringings and our private school sensibilities.
Still, I couldn’t let go of the idea that it might be, and how miraculous life could be if it was. So I quietly spent years looking for the answer, for some kind of evidence or proof that there was something much bigger, much deeper going on that the vast majority of western civilizations had spent considerable energy blocking out.
I found lots of wonderful people offering high quality insightful guidance. Books like The Celestine Prophecy knocked my socks off, as did Jonathan Livingston Seagull, The Road Less Travelled, and Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. I joined groups, went to workshops and studied in secret because I couldn’t shake the feeling that if I talked about this stuff out in the open the entire world would think I was a New Age flake. And if you look at most of the websites by these writers you'll know what I mean - flakey.
This quite honestly paralysed me. I couldn’t reconcile living in the world of my education, my career and my upbringing while living from a spiritual foundation. It felt as though these two halves of me could never coexist. I told myself I hadn’t found anything more substantial than ideas and ideals so tried to let it all go. I turned 25, 30 and 35 and still couldn’t shake the nagging suspicion that life was about far more than the obvious.
Finally, pregnant with my son Banjo I had a slow burn realisation that I was going to have to find a way to be true to myself or somehow accept that all my dreams about what life could be were just that. Option two was just too depressing to contemplate so that left option one.
So I committed to it... I didn’t know how or if it would work out but I committed.
How? I decided to cut the noise and started to listen on the inside, it was that simple.
Why is this relevant to you?
Because if you want to live the kind of life you want with ease and effortlessness you need to listen on the inside.
It’s not about books and intellectual understanding, although they can be your entree. It’s about living it, building a relationship with your inner guidance, trusting that life has your best interests at heart and that you no longer need to white knuckle the ride.
For me this was super scary, I never thought I cared much about what other people thought of me but clearly, I did. I felt like listening to myself rather than other people would make me unbearably vulnerable, but when I understood that what I was listening to on the inside was actually nudges from life it wasn’t about me anymore. I just had to relax, enjoy, trust, follow my curiosity and keep listening.
My curiosity led me to setting up a coworking studio and then I created PathHunting, and both are all about making it easier for you to do what you really want to do.
So what do you need to do, to do what you really want to do? It starts by connecting with your inner awesome and committing to co-creating your life with life itself.
Here are a few ideas to get you going...
1. You don’t need a guru
There’s a documentary about Tony Robbins called ‘I am not your guru’ and although I’m not totally sold on his approach, I’ve gotta say I’m completely in sync with him on this.
You don’t need a guru. It’s an antiquated paradigm of spirituality that requires us to go to another human somehow anointed by god as his/her/it’s spokesperson.
You have your own connection, and it’s a direct line. It might be a tad underutilized since you’ve become an adult but it’s there and always has been.
We each have a divine spark inside us. I call it your innate intelligence, some might call it their inner guidance or inner voice, regardless it’s the same thing. When you work together, designing your life in tandem everything becomes far easier.
Other people will certainly still be an inspiration to you, but you will no longer feel inferior to them, you are equally valuable, divine and amazing as the next guy or gal. Even Buddha, even Oprah, even JK Rowling...
2. You don’t need to be into crystals, be a vegan, a yogi or in touch with the angels
There is no one path to take. And it’s far less about what looks like the path than what feels like your path. So if what you want most is a divine Instagram feed, by all means, follow the path that looks the best, if you’re after a greater connection with all the magic and mystery of life go with the path that feels like yours.
3. It’s not serious but you need to take it seriously
We generally take life super seriously, at least I do when my ego spends too long in the driver’s seat. I bore myself with my intensity sometimes. Life is not designed to be this way. Almost all the drama, pain and chaos we experience is created in and by our runaway minds. That's not life, that's crappy thinking.
So if life isn't serious, what do I mean by 'take it seriously'?
Teaming up with your innate intelligence isn’t a case of making a wish and watching all the riches of the world descend on fluffy white clouds into your lap. There is effort involved, commitment, discipline, focus and for some of us a whole lot of unlearning and belief shifting to do before we crack the big stuff.
Your life will change, I guarantee it and rather than seeing the standard measures of achievement and success the first and most meaningful sign of your connection will be a better experience of life in the moment.
You’ll feel better, lighter, more positive, more in flow, more open to ideas and more relaxed. You’ll be inspired and the ideas that come to you will be higher quality than before. Synchronicities, happy accidents and silver linings will become your new normal as you’ll notice life working to your advantage.
And then, what you want to experience and the kind of life you wish the live, will unfold before your very eyes. The better it gets, the better it gets.
But first you need to change the paradigm you’re living in, this is everyone’s starting point.
What's a paradigm?
It's a perspective, a belief system, or a way of looking at life. A paradigm shift occurs when individually or collectively we realise that we've outgrown the old perspective, our thinking and understanding of the world has evolved beyond it.
One of the most common analogies used to describe a paradigm shift is the leap between believing the earth is flat and the centre of the universe, to realising the earth is round and revolves around the sun. It was a huge leap for people, and put into question a whole range of other beliefs. So don't be surprised if your ego had a mild freak out, belief shattering concepts tend to push all the fear buttons.
So, back to the paradigm shift that's happening now...
It's realising that you are more than a physical body, that this world we live in is not made of solid matter or there is no such thing as a shared reality, that the life you live is the creation of your thoughts and feelings. For some people, there’s a big click, or an aha, for others it’s a gradual dawning of the idea that yeah, of course, now it all makes sense.
And then it becomes a question of how do I work with this, how do I begin to live consciously so I can co-create the experience of life I want rather than creating more of the same because I'm on automatic pilot. Answering this question is really the entire focus of what we do here at PathHunting.
Either way it’s the adventure of a lifetime, and what a grand time to be alive. You chose to be here now of course, but that’s another story for another day...
Happy trails, Bec xx
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